Breaking up is hard to do. But sometimes it’s necessary.
When you find yourself in a relationship where your needs aren’t getting met. Where your happiness is not being considered. Where you feel that you are not important to your partner. These are signs that your relationship has tun its course and it may be time to leave.If your relationship is broken, try to fix it. But don’t try to be a miracle worker. Some things can’t be fixed. Learn some of the signs of a broken relationship. Recognize them when they show up. And learn when to let go and move on.
Here are 10 Signs That It May Be Time To Dump Your Boyfriend:
1. He’s Insensitive and Ignores Your Feelings.
Does he ignore or avoid you when you’re having an emotional crisis and you know you’re not a drama queen? When you try to talk to him about problems you may be having, does he tune you out, turn up the TV or go in another room. Do you need to go to others for comfort when you’re sad or depressed.
If he lacks empathy for you and shows no concern for your emotional and mental well being, most likely he just doesn’t care about you. Now I know some men try to comfort you in their own way, which usually isn’t very helpful, but at least they’re trying. If he doesn’t even try, why stay with him. Find someone who will be your shoulder to cry or your cheering squad when you need it.
2. He’s Starting To Disappear.
Where had he gone? You talk to him on the phone, and he seems to have time for his family, friends, hobbies and everything under the sun, but no time for you. An important part of growing a healthy relationship is spending time together.
If you live near each other and he can’t take the time to see you, you’re not a priority. If he knows that spending time with you is important to you and he still doesn’t come around, why are still waiting for him. He’s obviously enjoying his life, it’s time you started enjoying yours.
3. He’s On A Mission… A Secret Mission.
Is he being sneaky? Has he started locking his cell phone and his computer? Has he started sending calls to voice mail when you’re around or go in another room to text? Has he stopped telling you about the things he’s been doing? Something’s going on. He’s up to no good.
Don’t wait around for the drama to unfold. If you’re getting warning signs, don’t ignore them. The foundations of a good relationship is trust and if you can’t trust him, why stay with him.
4. He’s Suddenly Celibate.
For most couples sex does decrease as your relationship matures. But it doesn’t come to a screeching halt. If there’s a reason for his sexual dysfunction, fine. If you didn’t have much of a sex life to begin with, then this isn’t an issue. But if you were a happy horny couple and now you may as well be in separate beds, then there’s a problem.
If he has no desire for sex with you, that’s a definite sign that your relationship is in trouble.Don’t stay in a passionless relationship, find a man who desires you.
5. He Wants To Be In Control.
Who’s in charge of your life? Does he need to know where you are, who you’re with and what you’re doing? Check your phone, your email, your Facebook account? Does he try to control other aspects of your life? What you do? What you eat? What you wear?
If he won’t let you be who you want to be, then he doesn’t love you for who you are. If he needs to check up on you then he doesn’t trust you. You need to get away form him before you lose all sense of self worth. The only person who should be in control of your life is you. Leave this control freak and find someone who trusts you and respects your right to be yourself..
6. He’s Pissing You Off… On Purpose.
Most men do things that their girlfriends find irritating. But most of these things are habit and we all know how hard habits are to break. But your boyfriend should not go out of his way to piss you off. Does he seem to want to make you mad, spark an argument?
Do your fights usually end with him walking out or threatening to break up with you? Does he seem more interested in your reaction than the actual conflict? Do you really want to be involved with a self absorbed drama queen?Don’t stick around and wait for him to grow up. Leave him and find a man who wants to show you love not drama.
7. You Can’t Stand Him.
Sometimes you just stop feeling the spark. You’ll know when it happens. When you stop wanting to see him. Don’t want to spend time with him. Dread having to hear his voice on the phone. When there’s no chemistry, the time you spend with your boyfriend will drag you down.
Ending this relationship is hard, especially if he’s a nice guy. But you need to do what’s best. It’s best for you because you’ll end the relationship before things get really bad. Also it’s best for him because it allows him to find someone who he does have chemistry with. So don’t force yourself to feel something that’s not there. You’re just wasting your time and his.
8. You’re Unhappy.
A relationship is not all rainbows, sunshine and lollipops, but it shouldn’t be torture either. You’re relationship should not be a source of sadness. You shouldn’t feel trapped. You shouldn’t feel empty. If you experience joy in other aspects of your life, but your relationship brings you down, it’s time to move on.
You need to be strong. Get support. Find someone you can talk to, a friend, a family member, a counselor. Find someone who can help you figure out what you want and what you need. Remember you’re the only person in control of your happiness.
9. He’s Won’t Commit To You.
Yes there are men who afraid of commitment. For many in time for the right woman they’ll come around. But it the guy you want seems more committed to exploring his options, then he’s not serious about you. Does he want an open relationship? Does he think he needs to keep seeing other women?
He’s looking for something better. You’re temporary. Someone to date until he finds his Ms. Right. If you’re okay with that, fine. But don’t try to tie him down. He doesn’t want to settle down with you. Find someone who does and let him go.
10. He’s A Loser.
Does he expect you to pay for the dates. Does he come over to watch your TV and eat your food. Does he seem to always need to borrow something – food, money, your car. He’s a mooch. Get rid of this cheap, grubby loser. He’s using you for what you have.
He doesn’t care about you, just your stuff and what you can do for him. Cut him off, then cut him out of your life. Losing him will not only make your life better by giving you access to better men, but you’ll also reduce your grocery bills.
Not every relationship works out. When a relationship ends it can feel like the death of a close friend. You’ll feel the loss. But the pain of the breakup is nothing compared to the pain you’ll experience if you stay in a bad relationship. Don’t stay in hopes that it will get better. Don’t think that you can change him. If he wanted to change, he would. If he doesn’t there’s nothing you can do about it. If he’s not into you or if he doesn’t want to be with you, there’s nothing you can do about it. You can’t change someone else. So stop trying.
No one should be miserable, just for the sake of being with someone. No matter who you are, there’s someone out there who’s perfect for you. There’s someone out there who will love you as you are and for who you are. And as long as you stay in this relationship, you’ll never find him. So when these signs are constantly being thrown in your face. Recognize them for what they are. Signs that you should make a change, move on. Dump Mr. Wrong and find your Mr. Right.